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@u/badgyallisiaabout 1 month ago · 3 weeks postpartum after
10/10
Severe

Cheated on me while pregnant

Found out he cheated the entire time I was pregnant, broke up with me 2 weeks before giving birth

What I wish I knew
He was cheating the whole time
RelationshipInfidelity
@u/Different_Eye_8706about 1 month ago · 6 months after
8/10
Regret

Leave the relationship for emotional safety

I realized my partner's lack of emotional support was a deal-breaker for me, and I left the relationship to focus on myself

What I wish I knew
I wish I had prioritized my own emotional well-being sooner
RelationshipEmotional Safety
@u/paststarsabout 1 month ago · 1 month before wedding after
8/10
Regret

Teaching fiancé to pay bills and rent

Fiancé complains about paying $500, mom validates feelings

What I wish I knew
How to handle conflicting family influences
RelationshipFinancial
@u/Brief-Temporary-4703about 1 month ago · 1 year after
10/10
Severe

Tried talking to husband

Husband prioritizes porn over intimacy, causing emotional distress

What I wish I knew
He'd change his habits
RelationshipCommunication
@u/Alone-Scar-4696about 1 month ago · 4 years after
8/10
Regret

Using drugs for intimacy

I've been using drugs to cope with intimacy issues with my boyfriend since 2022.

What I wish I knew
Intimacy issues are not my boyfriend's problem.
RelationshipInfidelity
@u/PuzzleheadedCar1038about 1 month ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

moving forward with interests

Everything reminds me of my ex

What I wish I knew
How to cope without shared memories
RelationshipInfidelity
@u/The_50_50_Winnerabout 1 month ago · 1 day after
8/10
Regret

Told GF I didn't want her to go out late at night

My GF is ignoring me after an argument, she hasn't responded to calls or texts

What I wish I knew
How to communicate effectively during an argument
RelationshipCommunication Issues
@u/lucigray222about 1 month ago · 1 year after
6/10
Regret

Can't stop talking about travelling

Boyfriend's constant travel talk is annoying and unrealistic

What I wish I knew
Consider my financial concerns
RelationshipCommunication
@u/l1mestonesabout 1 month ago · 2 years after
10/10
Severe

Dating abusive partner

Partner's lack of motivation and constant arguing made me feel trapped and unfulfilled while I healed from rape and struggled with alcoholism.

What I wish I knew
I deserved better than an abusive partner who didn't support my goals and well-being.
RelationshipAbusive Partner
@u/BreadCute1535about 1 month ago · 1 year after
1/10
Settled

Dumped financially abusive husband

Got rid of toxic relationship, improved finances

What I wish I knew
He was cheating and only with me for money
RelationshipDivorce
@u/dansemoveabout 1 month ago · 3 days after
10/10
Severe

ended 10-year relationship

He left me after coworker moved back, citing feelings for her

What I wish I knew
he'd see value in our relationship beyond his crush
RelationshipBreakup
@u/Lightning8-about 1 month ago · 1.5 years after
8/10
Regret

Living with partner despite fights

Had 4 big fights, heartbroken, and nervous

What I wish I knew
How to manage his anger and stress
RelationshipConfused
@u/ThrowRArelations12about 1 month ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Dropped coworkers home, didn't discuss with girlfriend

Girlfriend feels I don't trust her, struggles with boundaries

What I wish I knew
How to effectively communicate and set boundaries
RelationshipTrust Issues
@u/AltruisticWelcome145about 1 month ago · e.g. after marriage after
1/10
Settled

I married my wife

I feel incredibly lucky to have her

What I wish I knew
nothing
RelationshipLove
@u/CommunicationOld1199about 1 month ago · 2 years after
8/10
Regret

called 911 on ex bf

called 911 on ex bf for cheating and public indecency

What I wish I knew
how to cope with anger and guilt
RelationshipCheating
@u/Confusion24_about 1 month ago · Some weeks after the breakup after
8/10
Regret

Broke up with me due to religious differences

Fiancé became religious and ended our relationship after I expressed concerns about our future children being raised in a strict Christian household

What I wish I knew
That his newfound faith would lead to a complete transformation of his values and priorities
RelationshipReligious Differences
@u/Important-Bake7786about 1 month ago · 5 years until youngest is an adult after
8/10
Regret

Can't keep living with him

Living with an abusive partner for decades, feeling trapped and alone

What I wish I knew
Recognize the abuse sooner
RelationshipAbusive Marriage
@u/hab1bbbabout 1 month ago · 1 week after
5/10
Mixed

I started drinking again after 2 months of sobriety

I realized I'm an alcoholic and my drinking is hurting my relationship

What I wish I knew
I should've sought help sooner
RelationshipAddiction
@u/Prestigious_Laugh798about 1 month ago · 1 year and 2 months after
8/10
Regret

Tried to talk to boyfriend about intimacy issues

Boyfriend's lack of intimacy and dishonesty caused me emotional distress

What I wish I knew
He was struggling with intimacy issues from past relationships
RelationshipCommunication Issues
@u/Professional-Tap8741about 1 month ago · 3 months after
1/10
Settled

To show husband appreciation after C-section

Husband helped with postpartum care, allowing me to recover

What I wish I knew
How to express gratitude effectively
RelationshipShowing Appreciation