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@u/Berthabutz15 days ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

deal with current wife's demands

Current wife told me to stop asking for alimony, citing stress on my ex due to cancer

What I wish I knew
court payment system would protect me from communicating with ex
MarriageEx-Husband'S Affair
@u/lenalenuabout 1 month ago · 1 year after
10/10
Severe

gave up on my marriage

he stormed off when I cried, felt unable to cure my depression

What I wish I knew
he couldn't handle my struggles
MarriageInfidelity
@u/Low_Big_1759about 1 month ago · 2 weeks after
10/10
Severe

left my family

He left me with 2 kids and $11k debt

What I wish I knew
he was planning to leave
MarriageAbandonment
@u/StrictBerry3333about 2 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

remained in the marriage

My husband reconnected with his ex-wife, now speaking with her daily, while expecting me to remain unfazed.

What I wish I knew
I wish I knew his intentions before he disappeared for 9 days.
MarriageInfidelity
@u/ThrowRA_BitterPepperabout 2 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

married with IVF plans

Husband admitted to infidelity during IVF, questioned our marriage after learning we're having triplets

What I wish I knew
Husband's true feelings about infidelity and having multiples
MarriageInfidelity
@u/nefarious-noodlesabout 2 months ago · 1 year and 2 months after
10/10
Severe

chose comfort over gut feeling

bought house with man while trying to reconcile, ended in divorce

What I wish I knew
listen to gut feeling
MarriageBad Decision
@u/Startingthisoverabout 2 months ago · 4 years after
8/10
Regret

leave unhappy marriage

Feeling trapped in my home due to wife's introversion, leading to a lack of freedom and social interaction.

What I wish I knew
To communicate my needs and desires more effectively before it got this bad.
MarriageUnfulfilling
@u/ComfortableLion98572 months ago · 3+ years after
10/10
Severe

staying in unhappy marriage

I stayed in a marriage that was damaged beyond repair, prolonging my suffering

What I wish I knew
I should've left earlier to save myself from emotional distress
MarriageDivorce
@u/Coconutcornhuskey3 months ago · 6 years of marriage after
8/10
Regret

dealing with abusive partner

wife's behavior is causing emotional distress, affecting kids

What I wish I knew
recognized signs of abuse earlier
MarriageAbusive
@u/YessikaHaircutt3 months ago · 2 years after leaving after
10/10
Severe

I stayed in a decade-long marriage to a Latino man who expected me to do everything for him

I tolerated his behavior for years, but now I'm happy being single and planning activities without considering his schedule

What I wish I knew
men who expect others to do everything for them are not modern or respectful
MarriageToxic Husband
@u/Intelligent_Sugar_3 months ago · 1 year after
10/10
Severe

Facing failing marriage

Husband cheated, met woman before marrying me

What I wish I knew
Had more bandwidth for decisions
MarriageFailing
@u/Ok-Company53733 months ago · 9 years after
10/10
Severe

want a divorce

Marriage turned miserable due to lack of connection, infidelity suspicions, and physical abuse

What I wish I knew
Communicate more effectively and address issues sooner
MarriageUnhappy
@u/BrokenBones993 months ago · 1 week after
8/10
Regret

Married for 10+ years

Husband showed no empathy when I was sick for a week, dismissing my pain and calling me a 'privileged princess'.

What I wish I knew
He would prioritize my well-being when I'm sick.
MarriageCommunication
@u/mtb4fn773 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

suspicion of infidelity

My wife's unusual grooming before a work trip raised my suspicion of infidelity

What I wish I knew
Why she felt the need to shave
MarriageInfidelity
@u/violet_sunshine94 months ago · 1 year after
1/10
Settled

stayed in marriage after initial cheating

discovered second affair partner, husband's disrespect & dishonesty

What I wish I knew
husband was a cheater
MarriageInfidelity
@u/AnnualRealistic84294 months ago · 6 months after
8/10
Regret

agreed to husband's weird desire

agreed to husband's weird bed desire, now marriage is strained

What I wish I knew
not to have agreed to his request
MarriageInfidelity
@u/spacebat9095 months ago · 1 week after
8/10
Regret

asked husband to do chores

husband didn't do laundry and dishes after I asked

What I wish I knew
how to communicate household responsibilities effectively
MarriageCommunication
@u/Strange_Panda255 months ago · 2 years after
10/10
Severe

gave second chance

caught wife emotionally and physically cheating

What I wish I knew
self-respect is key
MarriageInfidelity
@u/East-Tart85705 months ago · 2 months after
10/10
Severe

married someone who cheated on me

He cheated on me and got me pregnant while planning our wedding

What I wish I knew
He was still in contact with his mistress
MarriageInfidelity
@u/Silly-Violinist1725 months ago · 10 years after
8/10
Regret

married someone with asperger's

Constantly arguing with husband over minor issues, feeling lectured and drained.

What I wish I knew
Understanding and support for partners with autism would've been helpful
MarriageAsperger'S