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#RI-69aa85eb·3 months ago·
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I kept finding disturbing things on my boyfriend's phone after 4 years together

I found messages on his phone from an ex I had never heard of, and he was also looking at porn that resembled her

What I wish I knew
"I wish I had known about his past infidelity before we got together"
If I could tell you one thing
"Be open and honest with your partner about your past and boundaries"
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10/10
High, persistent regret.
Has not decreased significantly with time.
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