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@u/leftupsideabout 1 month ago · 1 year after
10/10
Severe

left friend on read for weeks

left friend's innocent message unread, then learned of her death

What I wish I knew
replied to message when received
FriendshipUnreturned Message
@u/Hackensackbratabout 2 months ago · 1 year after
1/10
Settled

went on a date without D's approval

D threw a possessive temper tantrum when I went on a date

What I wish I knew
how to set and maintain healthy boundaries
FriendshipToxic Behavior
@u/throw_RA_47712 months ago · 1 year after
1/10
Settled

prevented friend from committing suicide

Prevented friend's suicide by calling paramedics

What I wish I knew
More about BPD and effective support methods
FriendshipMental Health
@u/AnotherPerishedSoul3 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

moved online with autistic guy

felt like sounding board, no interest in my life

What I wish I knew
realistic expectations of autistic friendships
FriendshipAutistic
@u/Signal-Animator-74644 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

wore white to all black birthday dinner

Wore white top to friend's all black birthday dinner, leading to conflict and friendship end.

What I wish I knew
To communicate dress code more clearly.
FriendshipMisunderstood Dress Code
@u/VioletBluebonnet4 months ago · this morning after
10/10
Severe

trusted friend confided in me

Victoria confided in me about Josh's alleged controlling behavior

What I wish I knew
how to navigate a confidential friendship
FriendshipConfidentiality
@u/arewedoingthisag5 months ago · few weeks after
8/10
Regret

Expressed anger with friend

Friend's dad SA'd her daughter, got 1 year in prison

What I wish I knew
Her pain and trauma were that deep
FriendshipFallout
@u/BookWormSubmissive-5 months ago · 5 months postpartum after
8/10
Regret

handle friendship situation

Friend let me down after I initiated contact multiple times

What I wish I knew
She would have been a better friend
FriendshipLet Down
@u/badbehaviorx055 months ago · 1 year after
6/10
Regret

Set a boundary without ruining friendship

Best friend borrowed money multiple times, got annoyed when asked for repayment

What I wish I knew
Considered consequences of enabling behavior
FriendshipBoundaries
@u/Due-Marionberry-38975 months ago · 2 days after
8/10
Regret

betrayed my best friend's trust

I shared my best friend's secret with the person it was about

What I wish I knew
to keep her confidence
FriendshipTrust Breach
@u/Signal_Monitor_23785 months ago · 1 year after
5/10
Mixed

I prefer to be friends

I struggle to reject men and keep them as friends

What I wish I knew
prefacing friendships with aro/ace label helps
FriendshipBoundary Setting
@u/BreadOk80965 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

split attention between best friend and boyfriend

Best friend became jealous of boyfriend and demanded more attention, ruining our friendship

What I wish I knew
Recognize signs of jealousy earlier
FriendshipJealousy
@u/gurlysoftmist6 months ago · over a year after
8/10
Regret

lied about college acceptance

lied to best friend about college plans, caused her to change her own plans

What I wish I knew
honesty is better than keeping someone close
FriendshipTrust
@u/Aromatic_Afternoon676 months ago · several months after
8/10
Regret

confront my best friend about his girlfriend's potential manipulation

My best friend's girlfriend may be faking a disability to control him and gain financially

What I wish I knew
more about the extent of Kate's alleged disability and the lawsuit's progress
FriendshipConcern For A Friend'S Well-Being
@u/Formal_Damage3546 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Dealt with toxic friend

Experienced silent treatment and raised voices from a senior friend.

What I wish I knew
He would be toxic despite his caring facade
FriendshipToxic Behavior
@u/marriageaffected7 months ago · 1 year after
6/10
Regret

questioning my wife's commitment

My wife sided with my friend's ex-wife who left him due to financial troubles, making me question her commitment

What I wish I knew
how she would support me in tough times
FriendshipMarriage
@u/Madmahi257 months ago · after helping for free after
8/10
Regret

starting to charge friend for services

helped friend's business with content work without charging

What I wish I knew
clear expectations from the start
FriendshipProfessional Boundaries