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@u_kofercic20 days ago
divorceInfidelity
"trusted him 100%"
He had a 1.5 year long affair while I was at home raising our kids
What I wish I knew
"He was cheating on me"
Advice

"Don't ignore your instincts about your partner"

10/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Tellmemultitudes21 days ago
divorceUnexplained
"Divorced without explanation"
He divorced me without explanation, leaving me to pick up the pieces
What I wish I knew
"Why he decided to divorce me"
Advice

"Don't avoid dealing with the reasons behind a divorce"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_TurnoverVast683922 days ago
divorceFinancial and relational issues
"Ex-husband wants to file taxes jointly after initially declining"
Ex-husband became sneaky and controlling after feeling fully lost in the divorce process
What I wish I knew
"To anticipate his last-minute requests and demands for control"
Advice

"Do not give in to pride and consider the financial benefits of joint filing"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_thevickergirl23 days ago
divorceLater in life
"Dad's possible divorce after 30+ years"
Dad's potential divorce is affecting me
What I wish I knew
"How to support my mom during this time"
Advice

"Be prepared for a range of emotions"

1/10 regret
0
Author
@u_scanicolaau24 days ago
divorceAsset Split
"Holding ex to different standards"
Ex is being unreasonable and dishonest during divorce process
What I wish I knew
"Communicate more effectively and set clear boundaries"
Advice

"Don't let someone else's behavior dictate your actions"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Flat_Wasabi899927 days ago
divorceChild's Perspective
"Parents got divorced when I was 8th grade"
My parents' immaturity affected me negatively
What I wish I knew
"Parents should consider their child's well-being before divorce"
Advice

"Divorce before having kids to avoid hurting children"

10/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Practical-Leader129 days ago
divorceName Change
"Change name back"
Pausing career after marriage hurt my career prospects
What I wish I knew
"Considered career impact before marriage"
Advice

"Research name change laws and potential impact on career"

6/10 regret
0
Author
@u_ShotPay1291about 1 month ago
divorceFinal Judgement
"Submitted final judgement packet"
Drowning in grief after finalising divorce
What I wish I knew
"It's not just a paper, it's a strong attachment"
Advice

"It's okay to feel the pain, but don't blame yourself"

10/10 regret
0
Author
@u_kootles10about 1 month ago
divorceAnniversary
"replayed divorce moment"
I replayed the moment she told me she wanted a divorce
What I wish I knew
"I wish I'd anticipated the emotional impact"
Advice

"Don't replay painful memories"

2/10 regret
0
Author
@u_NerdyRadabout 1 month ago
divorceUK
"File divorce first, then sell house"
My wife doesn't agree with divorce, causing uncertainty
What I wish I knew
"Divorce process in UK takes time"
Advice

"Consult a lawyer for divorce and property advice"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Substantial_Age_2065about 1 month ago
divorceCo-parenting
"Moved out of family home after divorce"
I'm grieving and scared about co-parenting and moving out of our house. I'm worried the kids will prefer the house they know and I'll be disadvantaged.
What I wish I knew
"What are the long-term effects of moving on my kids and me?"
Advice

"Consider the kids' needs and your own healing when making decisions about co-parenting and living arrangements."

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Pretty_Baby_27about 1 month ago
divorceUncontested
"Used divorce website for uncontested divorce"
I filed for divorce without a lawyer and it was a huge mistake
What I wish I knew
"I should have hired a lawyer"
Advice

"Don't file for divorce without a lawyer"

5/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Lazy_Departure6077about 1 month ago
divorceWith Kids
"10 years with s/o, 4 married, 2 young kids"
Years of loneliness, disconnect, and resentment due to emotional abuse and lack of change
What I wish I knew
"Where to start with addressing unresolved issues"
Advice

"Seek outside help, such as therapy, to address underlying problems"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Available-East-2254about 1 month ago
divorceHealing
"Got divorced 10 years ago"
Struggled with loneliness, anxiety, and lost confidence
What I wish I knew
"Forgiveness is key to healing"
Advice

"Take small steps and be patient with yourself"

5/10 regret
0
Author
@u_grogger133about 1 month ago
divorceEmotional Regret
"Asked for divorce to end lonely marriage"
Husband accepted divorce without a fight, now moving on
What I wish I knew
"His acceptance would hurt me so much"
Advice

"Don't underestimate the emotional impact of a partner's acceptance"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_itslauramitchellabout 2 months ago
divorceadjustment
"thought divorce would be dramatic"
divorce became normal life
What I wish I knew
"divorce can be mundane"
Advice

"divorce is not always dramatic"

2/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Forsaken_Positive_38about 2 months ago
divorceNJ
"File divorce in NJ with separate attorneys"
Hiding finances caused stress and estimation issues
What I wish I knew
"Communicate finances openly"
Advice

"Estimate expenses based on past records or average costs"

7/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Medical-Layer-5828about 2 months ago
divorceProperty Division
"File for divorce"
I initiated divorce proceedings without considering alternative resolutions
What I wish I knew
"To explore mediation before filing"
Advice

"Consider the long-term effects of divorce on all parties involved"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Floundering-Sparkabout 2 months ago
divorceUncontested
"Filing for uncontested divorce in NY"
We've been separated for 14 months, now filing
What I wish I knew
" shred of evidence needed for uncontested"
Advice

"Proceed with caution, check requirements"

1/10 regret
0
Author
@u_A_rose_by_any_nameDWabout 2 months ago
divorceUnwanted
"Ending unhappy marriage"
Ex-husband takes half my assets
What I wish I knew
"Marriage counseling helps"
Advice

"Proceed with caution"

3/10 regret
0