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@u/HerLaceandQuillabout 2 months ago
divorceSeparation
"Starting divorce proceedings"
Marriage was over before separation, now buying out of house
What I wish I knew
"How to deal with anxiety after separation"
Advice

"Give yourself time to process emotions"

5/10 regret
0
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@u/Grouchy-Level-36713 months ago
divorceAttorney Issues
"Fired my attorney after poor representation"
Paid $2,500 retainer, got poor advice, missed settlement proposal
What I wish I knew
"Hired a better attorney from the start"
Advice

"Don't settle for poor representation, seek a new attorney quickly"

8/10 regret
0
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@u/Rachel_0808883 months ago
divorceCo-owning property
"Renting house after divorce"
I'm worried my ex will try to stay, making it hard for me to move on
What I wish I knew
"How to set clear boundaries with my ex"
Advice

"Be clear about your intentions and set boundaries from the start"

6/10 regret
0
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@u/Ancient_Hamster_14163 months ago
divorcesurvival
"Practicing daily gratitude and self-care"
Going through a divorce has been incredibly difficult, but daily gratitude has helped me stay grounded
What I wish I knew
"The importance of self-care during this time"
Advice

"Practice daily gratitude and seek help when needed"

6/10 regret
0
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@u/Alrig013 months ago
divorceBlindsided
"Wife surprised me with divorce request"
She sold our car and wants to sell the house, I'm at my parents house
What I wish I knew
"She was planning this"
Advice

"Communicate openly before making big decisions"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u/Practical_Knowledge83 months ago
divorcenew relationship
"started dating again"
found a new partner, enjoying it
What I wish I knew
"nothing"
Advice

"be open to new experiences"

1/10 regret
0
Author
@u/NiceFishing7063 months ago
divorceFailed Marriage
"My husband left me"
He doesn't love me anymore, leaving me broken and lost
What I wish I knew
"I wish I'd seen the signs earlier"
Advice

"Don't ignore relationship problems"

10/10 regret
0
Author
@u_kofercic9 months ago
divorceInfidelity
"trusted him 100%"
He had a 1.5 year long affair while I was at home raising our kids
What I wish I knew
"He was cheating on me"
Advice

"Don't ignore your instincts about your partner"

10/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Tellmemultitudes9 months ago
divorceUnexplained
"Divorced without explanation"
He divorced me without explanation, leaving me to pick up the pieces
What I wish I knew
"Why he decided to divorce me"
Advice

"Don't avoid dealing with the reasons behind a divorce"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_TurnoverVast683910 months ago
divorceFinancial and relational issues
"Ex-husband wants to file taxes jointly after initially declining"
Ex-husband became sneaky and controlling after feeling fully lost in the divorce process
What I wish I knew
"To anticipate his last-minute requests and demands for control"
Advice

"Do not give in to pride and consider the financial benefits of joint filing"

8/10 regret
0
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@u_thevickergirl10 months ago
divorceLater in life
"Dad's possible divorce after 30+ years"
Dad's potential divorce is affecting me
What I wish I knew
"How to support my mom during this time"
Advice

"Be prepared for a range of emotions"

1/10 regret
0
Author
@u_scanicolaau11 months ago
divorceAsset Split
"Holding ex to different standards"
Ex is being unreasonable and dishonest during divorce process
What I wish I knew
"Communicate more effectively and set clear boundaries"
Advice

"Don't let someone else's behavior dictate your actions"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Flat_Wasabi899912 months ago
divorceChild's Perspective
"Parents got divorced when I was 8th grade"
My parents' immaturity affected me negatively
What I wish I knew
"Parents should consider their child's well-being before divorce"
Advice

"Divorce before having kids to avoid hurting children"

10/10 regret
0
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@u_Practical-Leader1about 1 year ago
divorceName Change
"Change name back"
Pausing career after marriage hurt my career prospects
What I wish I knew
"Considered career impact before marriage"
Advice

"Research name change laws and potential impact on career"

6/10 regret
0
Author
@u_ShotPay1291about 1 year ago
divorceFinal Judgement
"Submitted final judgement packet"
Drowning in grief after finalising divorce
What I wish I knew
"It's not just a paper, it's a strong attachment"
Advice

"It's okay to feel the pain, but don't blame yourself"

10/10 regret
0
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@u_kootles10about 1 year ago
divorceAnniversary
"replayed divorce moment"
I replayed the moment she told me she wanted a divorce
What I wish I knew
"I wish I'd anticipated the emotional impact"
Advice

"Don't replay painful memories"

2/10 regret
0
Author
@u_NerdyRadabout 1 year ago
divorceUK
"File divorce first, then sell house"
My wife doesn't agree with divorce, causing uncertainty
What I wish I knew
"Divorce process in UK takes time"
Advice

"Consult a lawyer for divorce and property advice"

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Substantial_Age_2065over 1 year ago
divorceCo-parenting
"Moved out of family home after divorce"
I'm grieving and scared about co-parenting and moving out of our house. I'm worried the kids will prefer the house they know and I'll be disadvantaged.
What I wish I knew
"What are the long-term effects of moving on my kids and me?"
Advice

"Consider the kids' needs and your own healing when making decisions about co-parenting and living arrangements."

8/10 regret
0
Author
@u_Pretty_Baby_27over 1 year ago
divorceUncontested
"Used divorce website for uncontested divorce"
I filed for divorce without a lawyer and it was a huge mistake
What I wish I knew
"I should have hired a lawyer"
Advice

"Don't file for divorce without a lawyer"

5/10 regret
0
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@u_Lazy_Departure6077over 1 year ago
divorceWith Kids
"10 years with s/o, 4 married, 2 young kids"
Years of loneliness, disconnect, and resentment due to emotional abuse and lack of change
What I wish I knew
"Where to start with addressing unresolved issues"
Advice

"Seek outside help, such as therapy, to address underlying problems"

8/10 regret
0