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@u/DayOk9252about 1 month ago · e.g. now after
2/10
Settled

parents divorced when I was young

I felt relieved, parents were happier

What I wish I knew
parents were happier apart
DivorcePositive
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@u/Loud_Draft_8764about 2 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Hired an attorney for divorce

My attorney pushed for filing without knowing key facts about my case, including my house ownership, bill payment, and custody concerns.

What I wish I knew
Research the attorney's expertise and communication style before hiring.
DivorceQuestionable Attorney
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@u/Ancient_Pattern7272 months ago · After divorce finalized after
7/10
Regret

Demand ex-wife pay half of mortgage

Ex-wife refuses to pay half of mortgage as agreed, causing financial strain

What I wish I knew
Communicate financial expectations clearly before divorce
DivorceFinancial Obligations
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@u_Tellmemultitudes2 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Divorced without explanation

He divorced me without explanation, leaving me to pick up the pieces

What I wish I knew
Why he decided to divorce me
DivorceUnexplained
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@u_Flat_Wasabi89992 months ago · 2 years after
10/10
Severe

Parents got divorced when I was 8th grade

My parents' immaturity affected me negatively

What I wish I knew
Parents should consider their child's well-being before divorce
DivorceChild'S Perspective
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@u_Floundering-Spark2 months ago · 1 year after
1/10
Settled

Filing for uncontested divorce in NY

We've been separated for 14 months, now filing

What I wish I knew
shred of evidence needed for uncontested
DivorceUncontested
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@u_Practical-Leader12 months ago · After divorce after
6/10
Regret

Change name back

Pausing career after marriage hurt my career prospects

What I wish I knew
Considered career impact before marriage
DivorceName Change
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@u_scanicolaau2 months ago · 1 month after
8/10
Regret

Holding ex to different standards

Ex is being unreasonable and dishonest during divorce process

What I wish I knew
Communicate more effectively and set clear boundaries
DivorceAsset Split
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@u_Medical-Frosting-4352 months ago · 1 year after
6/10
Regret

left ex in August

default judgment granted, ex never responded

What I wish I knew
ex would've fought the divorce
DivorceUncontested
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@u_itslauramitchell2 months ago · 1 year after
2/10
Settled

thought divorce would be dramatic

divorce became normal life

What I wish I knew
divorce can be mundane
DivorceAdjustment
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@u_grogger1332 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Asked for divorce to end lonely marriage

Husband accepted divorce without a fight, now moving on

What I wish I knew
His acceptance would hurt me so much
DivorceEmotional Regret
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@u_Possible-Brick-24692 months ago · Now after
5/10
Mixed

Signed Dissolution and Petition

My first Bird Nesting stint was awful, now I'm considering co-habiting during divorce

What I wish I knew
Being away from kids was harder than I thought
DivorceCo-Habitation During Divorce
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@u_Silver-Impact78192 months ago · 1 year after
5/10
Mixed

Seeking input on Guardian ad Litem

I'm considering a Guardian ad Litem for my kids' best interest

What I wish I knew
More about the process and potential outcomes
DivorceHigh Conflict Divorce
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@u_Forsaken_Positive_382 months ago · 1 year after
7/10
Regret

File divorce in NJ with separate attorneys

Hiding finances caused stress and estimation issues

What I wish I knew
Communicate finances openly
DivorceNj
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@u_SubjectNo84702 months ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

waited a year to file

experienced sudden loss of access to kids

What I wish I knew
filed immediately
DivorceSeparation
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@u_ShotPay12912 months ago · 4-8 weeks after
10/10
Severe

Submitted final judgement packet

Drowning in grief after finalising divorce

What I wish I knew
It's not just a paper, it's a strong attachment
DivorceFinal Judgement
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@u/Friendly-One77593 months ago · 1 week after hospitalization after
10/10
Severe

Ended 14-year marriage after violent incident

Wife's violent outburst led to police report, hospitalization, and ongoing abuse accusations

What I wish I knew
How to handle abusive partner's denial and blame
DivorceAbusive Relationship
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@u/GerthBrooks94 months ago · 6 months after
8/10
Regret

Lost emotional partner

Lost partner, uncovered suppressed trauma, felt manipulated

What I wish I knew
Not to take emotional partner for granted
DivorceCodependency
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@u/envytee6824 months ago · After divorce after
5/10
Mixed

Staying in a small community

Fear of running into ex-spouse daily

What I wish I knew
Co-parenting strategies for small communities
DivorceCo-Parenting
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@u_Available-East-22544 months ago · 10 years after
5/10
Mixed

Got divorced 10 years ago

Struggled with loneliness, anxiety, and lost confidence

What I wish I knew
Forgiveness is key to healing
DivorceHealing
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