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relationshipLong-distance relationship wirh avoidant attachment
#RI-69ba7647·4 months ago·
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Struggling to decide whether to break up with my boyfriend

I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months, but he has an avoidant attachment style and has never loved anyone before. We've had ups and downs, but I'm starting to feel burnt out and unsure if he'll ever love me

What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew if he was truly committed to working on his attachment issues and if he'd ever be able to love me"
If I could tell you one thing
"Don't settle for someone who doesn't make you feel loved and valued, even if they're trying to work on their issues"
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8/10
Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
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