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@u/Straight-Ad5182about 1 month ago
familyincest
"Caught brother shagging a sheep"
Caught brother and uncle in compromising positions, led to violent castration and escape
What I wish I knew
"Never have family gatherings"
Advice

"Be cautious of family members' dark secrets"

10/10 regret
0
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@u/Dry-Victory-4182about 1 month ago
familyneglect
"Confront mom about neglect and boyfriend's influence"
I'm planning to call my mom and express my concerns about her boyfriend's behavior and how it's affecting my sister. I'm worried that she won't listen to me and that we'll have a big argument.
What I wish I knew
"How to approach the conversation without being too confrontational or accusatory"
Advice

"Be honest and direct, but also try to understand your mom's perspective and feelings."

8/10 regret
0
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@u/sillybillybaesabout 1 month ago
familyparental_conflict
"I stayed in contact with my abusive mother."
My mother was physically and verbally abusive, throwing objects at me and my young children. I followed a counselor's bad advice to stay in contact, which has led to constant stress and ongoing boundary violations.
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew that it was okay to cut contact to protect my children and my own mental health."
Advice

"Prioritize your and your children's safety; you do not have to maintain contact with an abusive family member."

9/10 regret
0
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@u/LowKaleidoscope8496about 1 month ago
familymarriage
"Argued with my husband after our baby was born."
After our difficult baby was born, I was overwhelmed and constantly argued with my husband about him not doing enough. He grew distant, said he fell out of love, and now wants to separate.
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew how my constant criticism and arguments would permanently damage his feelings for me."
Advice

"Be mindful of how you treat your partner during the stressful newborn phase, as it can have lasting consequences."

10/10 regret
0
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@u/Existing_Charity330about 1 month ago
familyabusive father
"can't wait for father to pass away"
father's abuse has caused mental exhaustion and suicidal thoughts
What I wish I knew
"father's abuse doesn't justify his behavior"
Advice

"don't wait for abusers to change, prioritize self-care"

10/10 regret
0
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@u/Straight-Ad5182about 1 month ago
familybrother's behavior
"Discovering brother's Nazi ideology"
My brother r*ped a sheep outside my tent, and I witnessed it
What I wish I knew
"How to handle my brother's disturbing behavior"
Advice

"Seek help from a professional, such as a therapist or counselor"

10/10 regret
0
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@u/WhisperingWinterWindabout 1 month ago
familydisapproving family
"getting married despite family disapproval"
My fiancé's family has been extremely unsavory and manipulative, throwing me out of their home and making my fiancé feel guilty for supporting me.
What I wish I knew
"how to better navigate toxic family dynamics"
Advice

"set clear boundaries and prioritize your own well-being"

8/10 regret
0
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@u/iballguyabout 2 months ago
familySiblings
"Managing family property after parents' death"
One brother's financial troubles put family property at risk
What I wish I knew
"How to protect ourselves from liability"
Advice

"Consider buying out financially struggling family members"

8/10 regret
0
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@u/Impressive_Bat3090about 2 months ago
familyParenting
"Shutting off internet for 4 weeks"
Kids adapted to no internet, board games and crafts helped
What I wish I knew
"Hotspot alternatives for streaming"
Advice

"Plan ahead and have backup plans for kids' screen time"

3/10 regret
0
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@u/canimakeyouhurtmore4 months ago
familyunemployment
"Watching family member struggle with unemployment"
Watching loved one's prolonged job search with no success
What I wish I knew
"Maybe there's a way to get them more job opportunities"
Advice

"Be more supportive and understanding of those struggling with unemployment"

10/10 regret
0
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@u_Mediocre-Bench63168 months ago
familyparental conflict
"trying to understand parents' arguments"
parents argue constantly, effecting me
What I wish I knew
"why parents won't talk it out"
Advice

"seek professional help for relationship issues"

8/10 regret
0
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@u_Aromatic_Contract2758 months ago
familysibling conflict
"Removed myself from a situation to calm things down"
My brother's girlfriend harassed me after I told her to leave my house after she yelled at my mom
What I wish I knew
"Setting boundaries doesn't always stop the harassment"
Advice

"Don't engage with people who disrespect you"

8/10 regret
0
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8 months ago
familyabusive family
"running away from home"
I'm staying at my best friend's house, avoiding my abusive family due to their narcissistic and bipolar behavior.
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew how to handle the situation without feeling forced to run away."
Advice

"Don't be afraid to seek help and support from trusted friends and authorities if you're dealing with an abusive family."

9/10 regret
0
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@u_Marlon11398 months ago
familymaternal
"reconnect with maternal relatives after 24 years of no contact"
I lost contact with my maternal family when I was 5, and now I'm considering visiting them after my aunt had a stroke
What I wish I knew
"how to approach rebuilding the relationship"
Advice

"be patient and understanding"

5/10 regret
0
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@u_ThrowRApartition9 months ago
familyParenting
"Discovering FIL's past conviction"
I'm pregnant and just found out my FIL might be a convicted child molester
What I wish I knew
"how to handle this situation before now"
Advice

"Be honest with your partner, even if it's hard"

8/10 regret
0
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@u_gorne1469 months ago
familymoving
"apaulling wife's desire to move back home"
Wife wants to move back to our home country due to feeling suffocated here, but I love our life here
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew how to balance our conflicting desires"
Advice

"Consider the long-term implications of a major life change"

8/10 regret
0
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@u_RipLower57910 months ago
familyInfidelity
"Caught wife cheating online"
My wife cheated online with strangers, sent pics to our daughter
What I wish I knew
"Understood the severity of online infidelity"
Advice

"Trust your instincts, prioritize child's safety"

10/10 regret
0
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@u_Character-Mistake73510 months ago
familyRacism
"Invited non-white friend over"
My parents lectured me on racism after I invited a non-white friend over
What I wish I knew
"Not to ignore their racist views"
Advice

"Choose friends based on character, not race"

8/10 regret
0
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@u_Psotniara10 months ago
familyinfidelity
"Discovered mom's infidelity"
Found evidence of mom's cheating on dad
What I wish I knew
"How to handle the situation without causing more problems"
Advice

"Don't snoop, but be prepared for the consequences"

8/10 regret
0
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@u_BarracudaQueasy715810 months ago
familySibling
"Trusting my brother with my injured cat"
My brother let my cat go after she had surgery, I'm devastated and angry.
What I wish I knew
"That my brother couldn't be trusted with my pet's care."
Advice

"Don't trust your sibling with your pet's care if they're not willing to take responsibility."

10/10 regret
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