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@u/Rich_Temperature_7975 days ago · 1 year after
9/10
Severe

let him stay after threat of cops

He refused to leave my house after an argument, and showed up again the next day when I asked him not to.

What I wish I knew
He would disrespect boundaries like this
RelationshipsAbuse
@u/alisonwxderland11 days ago · Wednesday to Sunday after
8/10
Regret

Prioritizing video game over family time

Boyfriend cancelled plans with me and my parents to play GTA 6 for 5 days

What I wish I knew
He would prioritize family time
RelationshipsBoyfriend Issues
@u/ConfidentHoliday644212 days ago · 15 years after
1/10
Settled

Chose to pursue relationship despite initial confusion

Met girl in high school, fell in love, got married, had child

What I wish I knew
Nothing, as it all worked out
RelationshipsMarriage
@u/GarageGood664917 days ago · 6 months after
1/10
Settled

Started talking to other married couples online

Talking to other couples online increased our intimacy and sex life

What I wish I knew
How to explain it to others without sounding ridiculous
RelationshipsIntimacy
@u/Common_Pomegranate4421 days ago · 3 months into fertility treatments after
8/10
Regret

Prioritizing own emotional needs over partner's desires

Husband accused me of playing mind games due to reduced sex frequency

What I wish I knew
His needs and feelings would be acknowledged and respected
RelationshipsCommunication
@u/masarawest21 days ago · 1 year after
10/10
Severe

Woke up and left for work without checking on kids

Woke up, watched me snooze alarms, didn't wake me or kids

What I wish I knew
He should prioritize family over job
RelationshipsCommunication
@u/Virtual-Astronaut18524 days ago · 1 year together after
8/10
Regret

Navigated a sexless relationship

Boyfriend's sex drive dropped significantly after I expressed unhappiness with our sex life

What I wish I knew
How to address the issue without causing resentment
RelationshipsSexless Relationship
@u/NerdFabulous24 days ago · 16 years after
10/10
Severe

Cheated on by partner

My wife revealed 16-year affair

What I wish I knew
Cheating would've ended our marriage
RelationshipsInfidelity
@u/Prior-Degree364725 days ago · 1 week or 2 after breakup after
8/10
Regret

Dated anxious and avoidant partner

Felt calm hopelessness after breakup, missed partner deeply

What I wish I knew
How to move on without him
RelationshipsBreakup
@u/East_Delivery_703225 days ago · 1 year after
9/10
Severe

Boyfriend sent bloodied paper as gift

He sent me a bloodied paper with 'I love you' message, I acted sweet

What I wish I knew
Why he self-harmed
RelationshipsAbuse
@u/muff-peaksie27 days ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

My ex uses my emergency supplies without permission

He uses my emergency supplies when he doesn't need to, leaving me to re-pack them

What I wish I knew
He wouldn't use my stuff when he has his own
RelationshipsCo-Parenting
@u/iwishcookieinme28 days ago · 1 year after
6/10
Regret

I joined women's groups in a new city

I received compliments from women but not from men

What I wish I knew
Maybe men aren't interested in me
RelationshipsSocial Interactions
@u/Unable-Effective162829 days ago · 6 months after
8/10
Regret

Developed unhealthy feelings for coworker

Found myself thinking about coworker in a sexual way, affecting sex life with fiancé

What I wish I knew
How to control these feelings
RelationshipsUnwanted Attraction
@u/hsrc88829 days ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Dated guys with commitment issues

I kept dating guys who only wanted sex, feeling objectified and unfulfilled.

What I wish I knew
I should've prioritized guys who value relationships over casual sex
RelationshipsDating
@u/ResponsibleBattle221about 1 month ago · Years after
10/10
Severe

Spreading false rumors to break up friend's relationship

I spread false rumors about my friend's boyfriend to make her question him. She broke up with him, and I felt guilty but didn't confess.

What I wish I knew
I was jealous and didn't need to hurt my friend to feel better
RelationshipsManipulation
@u/Ok_Soft6125about 1 month ago · 5 years after
8/10
Regret

Chasing wealth and status to attract a partner

Spent 5 years trying to get a girlfriend, still feel unfulfilled

What I wish I knew
Relationships aren't about material possessions
RelationshipsDating
@u/Jean_WIIabout 1 month ago · almost 3 years after
8/10
Regret

Started dating at 35 after overcoming social anxiety

Dating apps feel populated with avoidants and cruel people, rare success

What I wish I knew
Dating apps may not be the best way to meet serious partners
RelationshipsDating
@u/daisy577about 1 month ago · First night together after
8/10
Regret

Let him stay overnight despite initial reservations

He threw up, snored loudly, and I felt uncomfortable sleeping with him

What I wish I knew
To communicate boundaries clearly
RelationshipsSleepovers
@u/lachatte7about 1 month ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Prioritizing therapy as a dating trait

I valued therapy over personality in a partner

What I wish I knew
Therapy isn't a substitute for personality
RelationshipsDating
@u/Historical-Body-3424about 1 month ago · 1 year after
8/10
Regret

Pursuing relationship despite incompatibilities

I've seen friends pursue incompatible relationships for physical attraction

What I wish I knew
Incompatibilities outweigh physical attraction
RelationshipsDating