“I kept returning to my inconsistent, on-again/off-again ex.”

Item: I kept returning to my inconsistent, on-again/off-again ex.
Rating: 2
Author: u/Dismal_Bonus_3886

What Actually Happened

I repeatedly reconnected with an ex who was hot and cold, giving me mixed signals and making me feel confused and lonely. He would pull me back in whenever I tried to move on, but the dynamic was emotionally draining and unstable.

What I wish I knew

"I wish I had recognized that his inconsistent behavior was a permanent pattern and not a phase I could fix."

Advice to Someone Facing This Now

If I could tell you one thing

"Don't let a long history with someone justify a present that makes you feel consistently lonely and confused."

Regret Index

8/10

Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.

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