familyparental_conflict
#RI-69f866d4·5 months ago·
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“I stayed in contact with my abusive mother.”
What Actually Happened
My mother was physically and verbally abusive, throwing objects at me and my young children. I followed a counselor's bad advice to stay in contact, which has led to constant stress and ongoing boundary violations.
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew that it was okay to cut contact to protect my children and my own mental health."
Advice to Someone Facing This Now
If I could tell you one thing
"Prioritize your and your children's safety; you do not have to maintain contact with an abusive family member."
Regret Index
9/10
High, persistent regret.
Has not decreased significantly with time.
Has not decreased significantly with time.
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family Category
180
family decisions logged. Avg regret 7.7/10 across the category.
Same Outcome Band
77%
of family decisions land in the severe band the same as this one.
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