“I told the man I'm seeing I loved him.”

Item: I told the man I'm seeing I loved him.
Rating: 3
Author: u/Prestigious-Ad8167

What Actually Happened

I told the man I'm seeing that I loved him, but he didn't say it back. He said he wasn't ready, which felt like a knife to my heart because he often talks about marrying me.

What I wish I knew

"I wish I knew he wasn't emotionally ready to reciprocate my feelings despite talking about our future."

Advice to Someone Facing This Now

If I could tell you one thing

"Be aware that someone discussing a future with you doesn't mean they are ready for emotional milestones."

Regret Index

7/10

Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.

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relationships Category

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