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relationshipBoundary Issue
#RI-6a9eae52·4 months ago·
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Lookback: 5 months into our relationship

Hosting a past sexual partner in our shared living space

I feel uncomfortable and disrespected by my girlfriend's decision to host a guy with a sexual history at our place, especially when our intimacy is frozen

What I wish I knew
"How to communicate my boundaries effectively without escalating the situation"
If I could tell you one thing
"Communicate your concerns calmly and assertively, setting clear boundaries without blaming or accusing your partner"
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8/10
Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
SettledMixedSevere

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