CareerBlackmail
#RI-69b39d8a·5 months ago·
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“Manager threatening to disclose job search unless I inform my boss”
What Actually Happened
Manager asked to be a reference then threatened to disclose job search unless I inform my boss
What I wish I knew
"Don't ask someone from the same leader for a reference"
Advice to Someone Facing This Now
If I could tell you one thing
"Be cautious when asking for references from colleagues or people in positions of power"
Regret Index
8/10
Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
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Career Category
6,107
Career decisions logged. Avg regret 5.7/10 across the category.
Same Outcome Band
44%
of Career decisions land in the severe band the same as this one.
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