relationshipsinfidelity
#RI-6a0ea3e7·6 months ago·
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“I confessed to my partner about past video sex.”
What Actually Happened
I confessed to my partner about having video sex with an abusive ex early in our relationship. He broke up with me, but after a tumultuous period we got back together, and now he says he will keep his options open.
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew that my honesty would not be met with understanding and would be used against me."
Advice to Someone Facing This Now
If I could tell you one thing
"Do not sacrifice everything for a partner who will not offer you grace or support through your past trauma."
Regret Index
9/10
High, persistent regret.
Has not decreased significantly with time.
Has not decreased significantly with time.
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relationships Category
559
relationships decisions logged. Avg regret 6.7/10 across the category.
Same Outcome Band
57%
of relationships decisions land in the severe band the same as this one.
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