relationshipRetroactive Jealousy
#RI-69a91227·2 months ago·
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“Competing with an ex who got away”
What Actually Happened
I've struggled with retroactive jealousy, obsessing over my boyfriend's ex who he had a fast and intense relationship with before me. I feel like I'm in competition with her, even though we've been dating for over a year.
What I wish I knew
"I wish I knew how to let go of my jealousy and trust my boyfriend more"
Advice to Someone Facing This Now
If I could tell you one thing
"Be honest with your partner about your feelings and try to focus on your own relationship rather than comparing it to others"
Regret Index
8/10
Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
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relationship Category
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Same Outcome Band
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