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#RI-6a6b0391·7 months ago·
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Lookback: 1.5 years into relationship

Tried to look attractive to spark intimacy

Felt embarrassed and pathetic after boyfriend said he didn't feel tension, now questioning own attractiveness and worth

What I wish I knew
"How to create natural tension without 'performing'"
If I could tell you one thing
"Communicate openly with partner about desires and boundaries"
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8/10
Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
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