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#RI-69ba78ed·4 months ago·
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Baseline expectations vs individual needs

I feel unheard and unappreciated in our relationship. He wants me to have hobbies and not bother him, but I feel like I'm already doing that by myself when he's not around.

What I wish I knew
"He needs to understand and respect my feelings and needs, not just his own."
If I could tell you one thing
"Communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and feelings. Don't assume they know what you want or need."
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Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
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