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#RI-6a23ca73·8 months ago·
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“Stopped visiting my paralyzed father due to his abusive past and racist behavior”
What Actually Happened
I felt overwhelmed by my father's condition and his past actions, so I stopped visiting him, which affected me badly and led to me quitting my job and leaving the country
What I wish I knew
"I wish I had set boundaries with my father when I was younger"
Advice to Someone Facing This Now
If I could tell you one thing
"Don't enable abusive behavior, prioritize your own well-being"
Regret Index
8/10
Clear regret.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
The downsides outweighed what was gained.
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Relationships Category
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